Ahhhhh, New Years! That special time of year to take a look at the past 365 days while muttering “what the fuck was that” and firmly crossing all your fingers and toes that the upcoming year will be a little bit less of a chaotic, carb-loaded, trashferno.
New Years has got to be one of my most pet-peeviest times of the year, mainly because it carries with it the expectation of staying up past 10pm (LOL not on your life pal) and also is associated with this ridiculous tradition/expectation of making resolutions.
Now don’t get me wrong, I love a fresh start as much as anyone, but I haven’t personally made a resolution in many years now because I consistently found myself in the position of feeling all this pressure to keep up with these lofty expectations I placed on myself on January 1st, while watching my eager optimism deteriorate into bloated melancholic disappointment in a winters fortnight.
However, despite the fact that I don’t do New Years resolutions myself, as a bit of a goal setting junkie I can appreciate that people see fit to take advantage of the opportunity to do so. And a little personal development is never a bad thing!
The following list are some suggestions of some non-cliche, trope-free New Years Resolutions that don’t suck.
Easy New Years Resolutions That Don’t Suck
Make Goals, Not Resolutions
You might be thinking it’s a little strange that I wrote an entire TED talk up there about hating resolutions and now my first resolution is to not make resolutions. Well I do hate resolutions but I love me some goals!
“Resolutions” is right up there with “cheat days” on my shit list of useless garbage phrases that do nothing to actually enhance your life.
Goal setting on the other hand is a skill that when mastered can be a complete and total life changer. The ability to clearly define, refine and identify goals and an action plan to tackle them is something you dont need a specific time of year to celebrate or accomplish.
Take a Break from Diets
Keto, Atkins, Paleo, oh my!
Approaching these and many other diets as a holistic lifestyle change rather than treating them as “diets” can have amazing results and many health benefits. However, for many people, years of struggling in diet culture has established a mindset pattern full of expectations, deprivation and disappointment that can undermine any healthy efforts.
For some, taking a break from diets altogether and thinking of addressing health itself in a more basic way (drink more water, eat more veggies) rather than focusing on weight or sets of food rules, may help establish foundational patterns for making larger lifestyle changes that stick.
At the risk of sounding like one of those positive thinking weirdos, I have to admit that focusing on gratitude and training my brain to notice even the littlest things I was grateful for, had an amazing effect on my wellness and overall attitude.
How do you do this? There are many ways but 2 specific ones that I’m a fan of are:
- Writing down things you are grateful for every day in a planner or gratitude journal
- Thinking of 3 or 4 things you are grateful for and acknowledging them every morning before you get out of bed and start your day.
Declutter your Virtual Sphere
Although decluttering your physical spaces and social circles is always a good idea, decluttering your virtual spaces takes a lot less energy and emotional investment.
Decluttering your virtual sphere is fairly easy and can usually be completed in a single afternoon. This could be:
- Unfollowing any accounts that make you feel like shit, AND ones you solely follow to snark on/hate read. You’re not 12 years old, being a petty bitch isnt cute or a good use of your mental energy.
- Removing yourself from any Facebook groups that don’t serve you or bring you joy…You can stay in MY group though 😉
- Opt out or mute any group chats/DM rooms that bring you anxiety
- Check in on your virtual feed and what info you’re surrounding yourself with when you are online. Make sure the shit you surround yourself with is consistent with the vibes you want to cultivate