I have a love hate relationship with my hair. My hair is long… like long long. And its super thick and kind of wavy….ish? I get many compliments on my hair but I think that when your hair is long and thick people are willing to overlook a lot.

Long wavy hair that is dry and damaged
My hair in 2015

My hair tends to be super dry, totally broken and frizzy, and I actually have to put a lot of work in to leave the house not looking like something a crazy cat lady coughed up.

Since I don’t really have the time (and can’t be arsed) to try and look like a pageant queen, that means I either rock a messy bun, or just leave it down and allow it to get all up in everyone’s business most of the time.

I have tried pretty much everything through the years to get my hair to be more manageable, soft and nice. I have tried everything under the sun that promised to define my waves so they weren’t just a fluffy mess. I have spent way too much money on products that ended up untouched because they were no match for my hair.

So, with my recent foray into natural living and all that hippy shit, I decided to give going “no poo” a go.


Update: If you get too eager to finish the post then here’s a spoiler! The method I used, although making my hair look and feel amazing, was damaging the shit out of it and I DO NOT recommend it!

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What is the “No Poo” Method?

“No poo” is a method of washing your hair that doesn’t use traditional shampoo products. No poo doesn’t mean that you wash it less often (although I have heard that some people do end up needing to wash it less often once your hair stabilizes) or that you don’t wash it at all. It simply means that you are using alternative methods for washing your hair.

There are many reasons why going no poo is appealing to some people. These reasons might include:

  • Limiting exposure to chemicals
  • It’s a cruelty free option
  • It’s frugal and simple AF
  • Your hair care routine produces less plastic waste
  • Some people swear it produces softer hair and manageable curls

This isn’t an exhaustive list of the reasons to go no poo, however these were all very appealing to me.

Which No Poo Method to Use?

When I first went no poo, I read a lot of stuff about baking soda and it’s effect on the hair and some of it was pretty negative (keep reading to the bottom of the post for more on this!). Additionally, most no poo methods use Apple Cider Vinegar, and I couldn’t wrap my head around this because my hair is so dry. I was terrified to even try it.

So when I started, I decided to try a method I saw that used aloe vera gel and coconut milk.

For the first week and a half I washed my hair every second day with this mixture. It did NOT agree with my hair! My roots and scalp were a hot mess and almost…. sludgey. It was true dirty hippy city. It was equal parts GROSS and FUCK NO.

Finally I couldn’t take it anymore and switched to a baking soda and water mixture, followed by an apple cider vinegar and water mixture that I saw on Mind Body Green. The instructions can be found here.

I followed the directions exactly as they appeared on the link I posted, down to the time spent prior to rinsing.

I used a squeeze bottle in order to distribute it evenly though my hair, and took care to really scrub it into the roots as well.

My Experience with the No Poo Method

Long dry hair after a month of using the no poo method
After a few weeks of no poo

After just over month of doing this, my hair was way softer than it was before- I found this counter-intuitive because of the harshness of vinegar, but hey, I never claimed to be a scientist!

I had never been so happy with my hair. I didn’t see much in the way of definition for my waves, but that’s ok. My hair was still fluffy/frizzy-ish, but it seemed to be a bit better than before.

Another added bonus was that my psoriasis (which has been terrible lately- DO NOT sleep with wet hair frequently!) seems to be getting better.

However, I’m having to find another method that doesn’t use as much baking soda. Here’s why.

Is the No Poo Method Right For You?

As you can see, my experience had been pretty great. That being said, I have heard VASTLY mixed reviews on how it has worked for other people. Some people have a terrible experience with it and some people have a great experience with it, and many end up needing to try something else later.

All I can say is that for me, this was a hairsaver… and then I started noticing all the breakage.

Consistent with the info in this article, my hair started to show signs of damage and breakage from the baking soda. Apparently this specific method can have nasty consequences for your hair, and the article also outlines some scientific reasons as to why (give it a read!).

I’m currently looking for an alternative method going forward that doesn’t use baking soda. Still on the hunt!

What does your hair care routine look like? Would you ever go no poo?


  1. Monica Sayad November 7, 2017 at 9:28 pm

    I am no poo too. My hair stopped falling out!
    Thanks for writing about it, we are totally normal.

  2. thelumberjackandthegypsy December 12, 2017 at 9:34 am

    I must really be out of the hair-care loop as I thought this was going to be how you went a month without having a bowel movement!!!! I tell ya, I am relieved that it was about your hair! Which is gorgeous, by the way. I am always doing something to my hair and as of today it is an aqua-teal blue faux hawk with geometric shapes cut into the rest and colored different colors. It is my most unusual hair-do to date and I have my hubs to thank for it as he did the shapes with my hair clippers and did the shape colorings. He is not at all artsy-fartsy nor is he hip. He is a 57 year old conservative guy but he knows if he doesn’t help me with my hair, Lord only knows what I will do. I am turning 63 this month so you can imagine the stares I get…..life is too short to have boring hair!!!!
    Love your writing.

    1. MandiEm December 12, 2017 at 9:54 am

      Hahaha I love this so much! Wish there was a no poo movement like you thought this was. Like “hey were over BMs ok, no one has time for it! Let’s just scrap em” 😁 your hair sounds so cool! For many years I had multicolored hair and loved it! Your husband is a dear to help you style it. And that is great life advice you wrote- life IS too short for boring hair! Thanks for reading!!

  3. Elizabeth December 15, 2017 at 2:44 am

    Nice post. I wonder if you have any tips for African hair. My daughters hair is eroded at the edges and I will like something that will help it grow.

    1. MandiEm December 15, 2017 at 7:37 am

      Thank you! Unfortunately I dont have any tips for African hair, but one thing I have found personally that helped my hair grow is what I ate. Sounds weird but I really tried to grow my hair for years and years with no luck. I think whatever I did when I started eating different made it so I was getting more of something (or maybe less of something?) and now it grows like mad and is almost down to my butt. Also putting straight full fat coconut milk on it made the breakage on mine less noticeable, but it is so messy that I kind of stopped because it’s hard to chase little kids when you are all slippery with coconut milk haha! Hope that helps a little ❤

  4. Leo December 18, 2017 at 9:01 am

    Beautiful hair! My wife has long thick hair as well. It’s a tough task dealing with it, but it looks lovely on you.

    1. MandiEm December 18, 2017 at 1:06 pm

      Thanks! It’s a pain that’s for sure haha

  5. Mishqueen January 9, 2018 at 12:53 pm

    Hi Mandi! It’s Mary from OICI. Your site is great!
    I’ve been no poo for nearly a decade now. My scalp now completely rejects organic shampoos, and my hair completely rejects sulfate shampoos. I’m on the BS/ACV route, and I guess I’ll be there until I find something else?
    Give me a heads up if you ever find anything even better.

    1. MandiEm January 9, 2018 at 2:32 pm

      Heyyyy girl!! You know What, I have been using this bar shampoo from a local farmers market vendor and I like it but I still am using B.S. and ACV sometimes because it just works so much better. Ugh. What a struggle! So basically I’m still searching for magic!


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